Here is an example of how I wish I could write, this time from the world of radio storytelling. This American Life is a weekly radio program that features essays, interviews and stories on a given theme. For Season 1 of their TV show, they tell the story of an atheist couple, where the boyfriend models as Jesus for art while the girlfriend struggles with the issues this raises in her relationship with her devoutly religious father. Towards the end, Nancy Updike, the producer of the show says this:
Choosing not to become the person your family expected is painful. You have to leave their world completely just to make sense of your own life, and then fate lures you back whenever it can to give you the chance to measure the distance between their world and yours and see if it’s still just as far as you remembered.
The mental picture of ‘fate luring you back’ and ‘the chance to measure the distance’ match the emotions associated with the feelings of loss that estrangement with family brings to the fore.